The emotions often associated with a breakup are sadness, emotional pain and loneliness. The pain you are feeling is very real and the blow that your ego has take is real. After all, the one person you trusted with your heart has rejected you and left you. You feel like you simply can not be happy until you have your ex back in your life again. You mind spins as you explore options and make plans to win your ex back but all your efforts seem to only make your ex more distant and cold. You want to live again but life without your ex is a cold, dark place. What should you do and how can you rekindle the love that your ex once felt for you? How do you begin to live again without your ex?
This may sound strange but happiness is the key to your success. Happiness will heal your heart as well as help you to achieve the correct attitude that will be necessary to attract your ex's attention and have them fall in love with you again. You might say that it's impossible for you to be happy right now. You're sad and depressed. You may even feel that your sad emotional state will prove to your ex that you still love them. You're afraid to let go of that pain. You link that pain with love and you are afraid to let that love die.
You might be feel bad the first time you laugh or start to feel better after your breakup. Your pain replaced the love that you and your ex once shared but it is not useful for you now. Your life and your days are not better when you mourn that loss. You are actually pushing people away from you and you become undesirable to the people around you and your ex when you are sad and depressed. Becoming happy again is a sign of strength and others will admire you for trying to heal and move on with your life. It has been proven that we avoid people who are overly emotional and distraught. This includes your ex. On the other hand, your ex will become more attracted and interested in you if you are happy, full of life and optimistic about your future. Your ex very well might fear being left in the past as your life moves on.
Being happy might be difficult at first. Your life has been turned upside down. You have lost the person that you used to laugh with and joke with. By forcing yourself to be happy and to think positive thoughts you will start to get into the habit of being happy. Think about yourself for a while and go out of your way to make time to make yourself laugh and be happy. If there is a favorite food that brings you pleasure, indulge in that food as a treat. Maybe you adore ice cream or lobster. Make a meal of your favorite foods and feel the love that you have for yourself blossom. Get out of the house and be around people. People in public can be funny. Experience life again. For a quick happiness fix, watch a funny movie or video that makes you giggle. The important thing is that you laugh every day.
On a grander scale, think about the possibilities that are now present in your life now that you're single again for a short while. What have you always wanted to do but couldn't because you were in a relationship? Maybe you wanted to go back to school or obtain your pilot's license. Perhaps you always wanted to travel or go on a cruise. Let your mind wander and think of something great you can do with your life. You're not moving on without your ex. You're building the kind of life that your ex is going to find interesting and fun. Soon your ex will become interested in what is going on in your life and they will come back around like a curious cat.
To further open your mind to the possibilities in life, understand that there are a lot of single people on the face of the planet. While you're waiting for your ex to wake up and smell the coffee, take a look around at all the people looking for someone just like you. You don't have to go out on a date but looking at profiles on a few dating sites might make you realize that even if your ex doesn't come back to you, there are other people out there equally as attractive if not more attractive than your ex. You don't have to contact anyone. Just do a little window shopping.
Loneliness can be difficult to handle at first but you will find that it becomes easier in time. Soon you will be so busy with your life that you will even forget about your ex for short periods of time. Don't become upset about this. This is natural. As your life settles down and you start feeling better about yourself, things will change. You will have things in your life that make you happy and as a result you will become more attractive to your ex and the people around you. It is often when we are satisfied with our life and truly happy again that our ex comes back. There is a connection between these two so the sooner you start to feel better about yourself and your life, the sooner you will find your ex becomes attracted to you again.
This may sound strange but happiness is the key to your success. Happiness will heal your heart as well as help you to achieve the correct attitude that will be necessary to attract your ex's attention and have them fall in love with you again. You might say that it's impossible for you to be happy right now. You're sad and depressed. You may even feel that your sad emotional state will prove to your ex that you still love them. You're afraid to let go of that pain. You link that pain with love and you are afraid to let that love die.
You might be feel bad the first time you laugh or start to feel better after your breakup. Your pain replaced the love that you and your ex once shared but it is not useful for you now. Your life and your days are not better when you mourn that loss. You are actually pushing people away from you and you become undesirable to the people around you and your ex when you are sad and depressed. Becoming happy again is a sign of strength and others will admire you for trying to heal and move on with your life. It has been proven that we avoid people who are overly emotional and distraught. This includes your ex. On the other hand, your ex will become more attracted and interested in you if you are happy, full of life and optimistic about your future. Your ex very well might fear being left in the past as your life moves on.
Being happy might be difficult at first. Your life has been turned upside down. You have lost the person that you used to laugh with and joke with. By forcing yourself to be happy and to think positive thoughts you will start to get into the habit of being happy. Think about yourself for a while and go out of your way to make time to make yourself laugh and be happy. If there is a favorite food that brings you pleasure, indulge in that food as a treat. Maybe you adore ice cream or lobster. Make a meal of your favorite foods and feel the love that you have for yourself blossom. Get out of the house and be around people. People in public can be funny. Experience life again. For a quick happiness fix, watch a funny movie or video that makes you giggle. The important thing is that you laugh every day.
On a grander scale, think about the possibilities that are now present in your life now that you're single again for a short while. What have you always wanted to do but couldn't because you were in a relationship? Maybe you wanted to go back to school or obtain your pilot's license. Perhaps you always wanted to travel or go on a cruise. Let your mind wander and think of something great you can do with your life. You're not moving on without your ex. You're building the kind of life that your ex is going to find interesting and fun. Soon your ex will become interested in what is going on in your life and they will come back around like a curious cat.
To further open your mind to the possibilities in life, understand that there are a lot of single people on the face of the planet. While you're waiting for your ex to wake up and smell the coffee, take a look around at all the people looking for someone just like you. You don't have to go out on a date but looking at profiles on a few dating sites might make you realize that even if your ex doesn't come back to you, there are other people out there equally as attractive if not more attractive than your ex. You don't have to contact anyone. Just do a little window shopping.
Loneliness can be difficult to handle at first but you will find that it becomes easier in time. Soon you will be so busy with your life that you will even forget about your ex for short periods of time. Don't become upset about this. This is natural. As your life settles down and you start feeling better about yourself, things will change. You will have things in your life that make you happy and as a result you will become more attractive to your ex and the people around you. It is often when we are satisfied with our life and truly happy again that our ex comes back. There is a connection between these two so the sooner you start to feel better about yourself and your life, the sooner you will find your ex becomes attracted to you again.
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