What do women really look for in a guy? All of this depends upon who you ask. Ask a woman and she will tell you one thing but ask a guy and you'll get a different answer. Most guys will tell you that women like guys that are handsome or muscular or that girls like a guys who are rich who can spend money on them. The truth is often more confusing when a girl tells you that she is just looking for a nice guy. Who do you believe and what's the truth? How can you, as a single guy, know what single women are looking for in a guy so you can get in a relationship with a girl that you find attractive?
Most guys will tell you that women are attracted by money and guys that have a lot of money. They'll even show you social proof of this fact by telling you about rich guys that have their pick of women or women that do go after guys with money. As a result, many guys are led to believe that in order to date very attractive women you need to buy their affection. Many guys feel that all hope is lost unless they are rich so they settle for low hanging fruit or women that they know are already attracted to them or below their standards.
Sure, there are women out there that go after guys with money. They are formally known as gold diggers and they're really not the kind of women that you want to date. Your relationship with a woman like this isn't stable and there will always be a guy out there that is richer and you don't want to be loved for what you can provide in terms of material goods, do you. The good news is that most women are not this way. Most women don't care how much money you make and they don't want you to buy them things. They don't want to feel like you're buying their affection and it makes a real woman feel cheap and dirty. That should make sense to you and the myth that women are attracted to rich guys is just a myth. Forget about how much money you make and if you are wealthy then let that be a pleasant surprise for later in your relationship with the woman of your dreams.
Then there are others that say that women are attracted to men who are handsome or muscular. The media provides proof of this by showing models and celebrities with other models or celebrities. You'll also often see girls that work out a lot with guys that work out a lot. It might seem that pretty people tend to be attracted to other pretty people and if you're ordinary looking you might feel like you don't have a chance with an attractive woman.
The fact is that movie stars, models and girls that work out at the gym simply tend to be around other movie stars, models and people at the gym. This doesn't mean that how you look is particularly important to attractive women. Sure, taking care of yourself and making sure that you don't smell bad is important to everyone but being overly attractive or even handsome isn't a prerequisite for dating a particularly attractive woman. There are plenty of cases where movie stars and models fall in love with very ordinary guys but this doesn't sell newspapers. Having a pretty face might get you a second look from an attractive girl but just think about this for a moment. Are there some attractive guys that aren't very clever or who are shallow or obnoxious? Don't you think that many women have figured this out? That's right, sometimes being handsome can actually work against you when you're trying to date a girl that's very pretty.
Many women will tell you that they are looking for a nice guy. They will tell you that they wonder where all the nice guys have gone or they'll complain that all the good guys are taken. You might think that if you could just show her how nice you are by being polite and being thoughtful then she will fall in love with you. If every woman is looking for a nice guy then you become that nice guy that every woman is looking for. This is the perfect plan.
Sadly, most really nice guys wind up falling in the friend zone when they try being nice to a beautiful woman. A nice guy is so rare that they value him and being nice to her before it is earned or warranted doesn't stir passion in a woman's heart. This doesn't mean that you should try being a bad boy, which is another myth about what women want. Understand that there is a time for being nice and that is after there is rapport and attraction. You can still be nice without following her around like a puppy dog but that comes soon after she starts to show an interest in you. Only needy men go out of their way to be nice to a girl. It's similar to trying to buy her affections and it is repulsive to many women.
What a woman needs to feel in order to be attracted to a guy and eventually fall in love with him is more complicated. A woman needs to feel secure and protected when she's with a man. She needs to feel safe with him. She needs to feel like she has known him all her life and she needs to feel comfortable enough to talk with him about anything and everything. She needs to feel like he is genuinely interested in her without any hidden motives and she wants to feel that he is being completely transparent with him. For you, as a guy, this means being yourself. While that might sound a little boring, being yourself in a world of game players and liars can take more strength than most men are capable of. Stand out and be yourself and you might find that you are a breath of fresh air to that beautiful girl that you're hoping to spend time with.
Most guys will tell you that women are attracted by money and guys that have a lot of money. They'll even show you social proof of this fact by telling you about rich guys that have their pick of women or women that do go after guys with money. As a result, many guys are led to believe that in order to date very attractive women you need to buy their affection. Many guys feel that all hope is lost unless they are rich so they settle for low hanging fruit or women that they know are already attracted to them or below their standards.
Sure, there are women out there that go after guys with money. They are formally known as gold diggers and they're really not the kind of women that you want to date. Your relationship with a woman like this isn't stable and there will always be a guy out there that is richer and you don't want to be loved for what you can provide in terms of material goods, do you. The good news is that most women are not this way. Most women don't care how much money you make and they don't want you to buy them things. They don't want to feel like you're buying their affection and it makes a real woman feel cheap and dirty. That should make sense to you and the myth that women are attracted to rich guys is just a myth. Forget about how much money you make and if you are wealthy then let that be a pleasant surprise for later in your relationship with the woman of your dreams.
Then there are others that say that women are attracted to men who are handsome or muscular. The media provides proof of this by showing models and celebrities with other models or celebrities. You'll also often see girls that work out a lot with guys that work out a lot. It might seem that pretty people tend to be attracted to other pretty people and if you're ordinary looking you might feel like you don't have a chance with an attractive woman.
The fact is that movie stars, models and girls that work out at the gym simply tend to be around other movie stars, models and people at the gym. This doesn't mean that how you look is particularly important to attractive women. Sure, taking care of yourself and making sure that you don't smell bad is important to everyone but being overly attractive or even handsome isn't a prerequisite for dating a particularly attractive woman. There are plenty of cases where movie stars and models fall in love with very ordinary guys but this doesn't sell newspapers. Having a pretty face might get you a second look from an attractive girl but just think about this for a moment. Are there some attractive guys that aren't very clever or who are shallow or obnoxious? Don't you think that many women have figured this out? That's right, sometimes being handsome can actually work against you when you're trying to date a girl that's very pretty.
Many women will tell you that they are looking for a nice guy. They will tell you that they wonder where all the nice guys have gone or they'll complain that all the good guys are taken. You might think that if you could just show her how nice you are by being polite and being thoughtful then she will fall in love with you. If every woman is looking for a nice guy then you become that nice guy that every woman is looking for. This is the perfect plan.
Sadly, most really nice guys wind up falling in the friend zone when they try being nice to a beautiful woman. A nice guy is so rare that they value him and being nice to her before it is earned or warranted doesn't stir passion in a woman's heart. This doesn't mean that you should try being a bad boy, which is another myth about what women want. Understand that there is a time for being nice and that is after there is rapport and attraction. You can still be nice without following her around like a puppy dog but that comes soon after she starts to show an interest in you. Only needy men go out of their way to be nice to a girl. It's similar to trying to buy her affections and it is repulsive to many women.
What a woman needs to feel in order to be attracted to a guy and eventually fall in love with him is more complicated. A woman needs to feel secure and protected when she's with a man. She needs to feel safe with him. She needs to feel like she has known him all her life and she needs to feel comfortable enough to talk with him about anything and everything. She needs to feel like he is genuinely interested in her without any hidden motives and she wants to feel that he is being completely transparent with him. For you, as a guy, this means being yourself. While that might sound a little boring, being yourself in a world of game players and liars can take more strength than most men are capable of. Stand out and be yourself and you might find that you are a breath of fresh air to that beautiful girl that you're hoping to spend time with.
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